Avoid “I’m Not in the Mood” with Some Libido-Lifting Tips
Tell me if you can relate to the following experience:
A long week of work has finally reached its end. Sure, the week was difficult, but the main reason for its lengthiness was due to anticipation – anticipation of what the weekend held in store.
All weekends are great. But this weekend was billed to be WAY above average. Why? Because you were spending it with your significant other, away from it all, in one of the finest of hotels your city has to offer. And if a little bit of luck was on your side, it would turn out to be one of the more memorable “experiences” of a lifetime – ahem, if you know what I mean (and I think you do).
Turns out, things didn’t go as planned. The hotel was great, and the décor was to die for, but The Five Dreaded Words were spoken, the ones that always put the kibosh on a romantic night of lovemaking: “I’m not in the mood.”
Each one of us have either felt or heard these words spoken before, and whether you’re the giver or the receiver, it’s never pleasant. Sex is a HUGE part of a relationship, and when opportunities for lovemaking go by the wayside, it frequently diminishes forthcoming opportunities – whether it’s due to fear of the same thing happening again, or the lowering of expectations.
The key, of course, is to have that “motivation” within you at all times so those Five Dreaded Words are never spoken. Here’s a small helping of ways in which to keep your libido lifted so you can avoid the 5DW :
Diet
Skeptics argue that keeping one’s libido lifted through diet is a self-fulfilling prophecy; in other words, if you think almonds or chocolate will lift your libido, odds are good they will.
But scientific evidence – not psychosomatic hogwash – suggests that certain foods do, indeed, lift one’s libido. For example, a study from Southwestern University found that coffee beans lift the libido of females. For men, the love-lifting libation is tea, specifically Damiana tea. Alternative health expert Dr. Sarah Brewer says the ingredient responsible for increasing male libido in this tea is called gonzalitosin. This ingredient sends a tingling sensation to the penis.
As a man, all I can say is, “Say no more!”
Supplements
Supplementing with vitamins and minerals are, hopefully, a normal part of your daily regimen, but specific supplements provide a great boost to your sex drive. Take St. John’s Wort as an example.
St. John’s Wort has a multitude of benefits – from improving one’s mood to improving one’s mind – and those benefits can be found in the bedroom. Because of its mood-improving properties, studies have shown that 60 percent of people formerly uninterested in sex regained their interest after taking St. John’s Wort.
Care for two more? Try ginseng and gingko biloba on for size (and no, I don’t mean that kind of size). Ginseng is one of the earliest herbs to be widely marketed in the United States, and it’s taken by millions of people regularly for the natural boost of energy it provides. So for people whose energy levels leave them pooped time comes for whoopee, ginseng is just the thing.
As for gingko biloba, this oddly-named herb stimulates blood flow throughout the body and brain (which explains why it’s taken by those who have a hard time remembering things). As blood flow improves its flow throughout the body, it serves as the perfect elixir for those who have a hard time getting a, shall we say, “hard on.”
Research published in the Journal of Sex Education and Therapy found that men who took gingko biloba regularly were able to maintain erections after six months (granted, gingko biloba is not an overnight healer, but the improvement took place, and it took place without the negative side effects that always accompany male impotency drugs).
A low libido may feel like something that’s out of your hands; something that will come back on its own in its own due course. That may be the case, but more often than not, it can be through our every-day actions and lifestyle.
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I hope you’ll take this opportunity and visit Low Pressure Sex today. By the time your next weekend getaway comes around, you’ll thank me (and your partner will thank you).
Many a man asks himself the question “how do you last longer?” – not surprising when you consider that up to 30% of all men will have some sort of problem with premature ejaculation at some time in his life. In this article, I’ll share with you a few good techniques that you can start using tonight to become a better, and longer, lover in the bedroom.
Different Positions
It always amazes me to hear how unadventurous some people are in the bedroom. Many guys use only the missionary position and others who consider themselves a little more experienced may opt for “doggy style” or woman on top.
In fact, there are many positions that will yield much longer time in the bedroom if you just try them. And some of them are also very good for the woman too. Just look up the “coital alignment technique” to see what I’m talking about.
Too Much Stress
Ultimately, the root cause of premature ejaculation is anxiety and focussing too much on “when” you will ejaculate.
One quick way around this is to try a natural herbal supplement because these act faster than drugs. One example is L-theanine and the Japanese have been using this for decades.
Numbing Products
Another way is to simply use anesthetic products. These work by blocking the nerve signals.
So if you reduce the nerve signals then you require longer stimulation to reach ejaculation.
One way is delay condoms. These are convenient and your partner need not know about your situation. Another way is to use delay sprays which are more flexible but less covert.
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What kinds of premature ejaculation medication exist that could help you to be a marathon man in the bedroom? In this article, I’ll share with you what works and what doesn’t and what the future holds in this area of medicine.
A Word About Herbal Pills
Allow me to give you a big warning about these. Technically speaking, they are not medication at all. However, these pills often masquerade as medicines.
They contain a number of natural ingredients that claim to increase your penis size, increase your sex drive and get rid of your premature ejaculation – all at once!
Needless to say, if it sounds too good to be true it usually is – and these pills are no different. Stay well away from them!
SSRIs
These are a class of antidepressants that are sometimes prescribed for men who have PE. They work because the true cause of PE is anxiety in the bedroom.
By taking these pills, you can get rid of your anxiety in the bedroom and last several minutes longer. The problem is that if you don’t have any anxiety outside of the bedroom then these pills are overkill.
Currently you have to take this medication every day and it works throughout the day so you may not like your mind being altered like this. Doctors have experimented with taking a larger dose to try and get more effect, more quickly, but it doesn’t seem to work properly this way.
The Future
Doctors know from experimenting with SSRIs that to cure PE they need to use drugs that work on the brain chemistry. Unfortunately, we are many years away from a “magic bullet” cure for PE.
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Recently on the Oprah show, Dr. Laura Berman revealed the 5 steps to a better sex life. Dr. Laura Bernam is America’s leading expert in female sexual health and recently made an appearance on the Oprah Winfrey show to share 5 steps to having a better sex life. We have captured these tips and are sharing them with you.
Step Number 1 – Tell The Truth! – In order words, stop faking orgasms! It’s an epidemic where 70% of women have faked an orgasm. He is trying so hard and the female knows it’s not going to end so she fakes the orgasm so the sex ends.
Step Number 2 – Ask For What You Want! – If your needs aren’t being met between the sheets, it’s time to have a conversation. Feel like you’re not fluent in the language of sex? Dr. Laura Bernam uses the foreplay map where couples write numbers in the order they would like to be pelased. Your partner also writes the numbers of order of what he/she thinks you wants to be please. Facts show that we don’t know what our partner really wants. So communicate with your partner and tell them what is it that you want. Lay it out for them. It will make both of you happy and both of you will be satisfied.
Step Nunber 3 – Let Go Of Negative Messages! – Growing up, you may have received some negative messages about sex along the way. Now is the time to move beyond those old beliefs and embrace the fact that you are a grown woman who doesn’t have to carry the beliefs of those who raised you. Start by writing down the negative messages you received growing up or the messages you picked up from your parents’ relationships. When you are ready to let them go, you can cross them out, rip out the page—anything that will symbolize letting go to you. Then, take a moment to document the situations where these moments came up in your life. This way, you’ll become more conscious of when old messages surface. When those messages do pop in your head, it’s important to replace them with positive thoughts. So go ahead and create a new sexual mantra!
Step Number 4 – Little Sex Drive? See Your Doctor! - Think your lack of sex drive is all in your head? Sometimes, a sagging sex life could be a sign of something more serious. Dr. Berman explains why your medicine cabinet could be dragging down your sex drive. There could be perfectly natural reasons for a sudden change in sexual function—how you feel about your relationship, body or emotions. Or it could be related to anxiety or depression. However, it could be something more serious that demands medical attention. “Don’t rule out the physical when you’re looking at your whole sexual equation,” Dr. Berman says. Your doctor should consider several clinical causes for your reduced sex drive. If it is caused by a hormonal imbalance, one possible solution is medication including minimally absorbed topical estrogen. Another common cause is side effects from medication. Dr. Berman says some medications that could effect sexual function include: hormonal contraceptives, antihistamines that cause dryness, antidepressants, antihypertensives like beta blockers or diuretics and anti-cancer drugs. “So you really want to talk to your doctor if you’re having symptoms of dryness, difficulty responding, problems with genital sensation [or] difficulty reaching orgasms,” Dr. Berman says.
Step Number 5 – Make Sex A Priority! - With work, kids, bills and other daily stressors, it’s easy to see how sex can slip off your relationship radar. Reignite your passion with three simple steps. Dr. Berman explains why date night could be the highlight of your week. 1. Commit to Sex at Least Once a Week - While putting sex on your weekly to-do list might seem like one of the least romantic things ever, Dr. Berman says it could be the key to reviving your intimacy. “It feels unromantic at first [to schedule sex] because we have the misconception that sex is supposed to happen spontaneously, which it does in the beginning of the relationship when your dopamine centers of the brain are firing and everything’s new and you can’t get enough of each other,” Dr. Berman says. “But that doesn’t work in a long-term relationship. If you wait for it to happen spontaneously, you’re going to be waiting forever.” 2. Create a Bedroom Retreat - Bedrooms are for two things only—sex and sleep. ”So cover the TV if you’re not willing to take it out of the room. … Put a nice tapestry or something over it. Ideally, TV out of the room, computer out of the room, pictures of Grandma out of the room. Make it into a sensual, sexual haven.”
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