Recently on the Oprah show, Dr. Laura Berman revealed the 5 steps to a better sex life. Dr. Laura Bernam is America’s leading expert in female sexual health and recently made an appearance on the Oprah Winfrey show to share 5 steps to having a better sex life. We have captured these tips and are sharing them with you.
Step Number 1 – Tell The Truth! – In order words, stop faking orgasms! It’s an epidemic where 70% of women have faked an orgasm. He is trying so hard and the female knows it’s not going to end so she fakes the orgasm so the sex ends.
Step Number 2 – Ask For What You Want! – If your needs aren’t being met between the sheets, it’s time to have a conversation. Feel like you’re not fluent in the language of sex? Dr. Laura Bernam uses the foreplay map where couples write numbers in the order they would like to be pelased. Your partner also writes the numbers of order of what he/she thinks you wants to be please. Facts show that we don’t know what our partner really wants. So communicate with your partner and tell them what is it that you want. Lay it out for them. It will make both of you happy and both of you will be satisfied.
Step Nunber 3 – Let Go Of Negative Messages! – Growing up, you may have received some negative messages about sex along the way. Now is the time to move beyond those old beliefs and embrace the fact that you are a grown woman who doesn’t have to carry the beliefs of those who raised you. Start by writing down the negative messages you received growing up or the messages you picked up from your parents’ relationships. When you are ready to let them go, you can cross them out, rip out the page—anything that will symbolize letting go to you. Then, take a moment to document the situations where these moments came up in your life. This way, you’ll become more conscious of when old messages surface. When those messages do pop in your head, it’s important to replace them with positive thoughts. So go ahead and create a new sexual mantra!
Step Number 4 – Little Sex Drive? See Your Doctor! - Think your lack of sex drive is all in your head? Sometimes, a sagging sex life could be a sign of something more serious. Dr. Berman explains why your medicine cabinet could be dragging down your sex drive. There could be perfectly natural reasons for a sudden change in sexual function—how you feel about your relationship, body or emotions. Or it could be related to anxiety or depression. However, it could be something more serious that demands medical attention. “Don’t rule out the physical when you’re looking at your whole sexual equation,” Dr. Berman says. Your doctor should consider several clinical causes for your reduced sex drive. If it is caused by a hormonal imbalance, one possible solution is medication including minimally absorbed topical estrogen. Another common cause is side effects from medication. Dr. Berman says some medications that could effect sexual function include: hormonal contraceptives, antihistamines that cause dryness, antidepressants, antihypertensives like beta blockers or diuretics and anti-cancer drugs. “So you really want to talk to your doctor if you’re having symptoms of dryness, difficulty responding, problems with genital sensation [or] difficulty reaching orgasms,” Dr. Berman says.
Step Number 5 – Make Sex A Priority! - With work, kids, bills and other daily stressors, it’s easy to see how sex can slip off your relationship radar. Reignite your passion with three simple steps. Dr. Berman explains why date night could be the highlight of your week. 1. Commit to Sex at Least Once a Week - While putting sex on your weekly to-do list might seem like one of the least romantic things ever, Dr. Berman says it could be the key to reviving your intimacy. “It feels unromantic at first [to schedule sex] because we have the misconception that sex is supposed to happen spontaneously, which it does in the beginning of the relationship when your dopamine centers of the brain are firing and everything’s new and you can’t get enough of each other,” Dr. Berman says. “But that doesn’t work in a long-term relationship. If you wait for it to happen spontaneously, you’re going to be waiting forever.” 2. Create a Bedroom Retreat - Bedrooms are for two things only—sex and sleep. ”So cover the TV if you’re not willing to take it out of the room. … Put a nice tapestry or something over it. Ideally, TV out of the room, computer out of the room, pictures of Grandma out of the room. Make it into a sensual, sexual haven.”
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